I still remember that day…the day that I became a grandparent!
Prior to that magical day, I lived vicariously through my friend’s six grandchildren; I witnessed her joy in just “being” a grandmother.
Watching your child become a parent is an incredible experience. Yes, becoming a grandparent is worth waiting for. It is not a job description, but a state of being. Your age, regardless of the age at which you become a grandparent, is an asset. You don’t need to conform to the stereotypes in books created for kids; you just need to be yourself.
I never had a relationship with my own grandparents; they always seemed “old” and they had so many grandchildren that I could not keep count. That is what happens when you start out with 10 or 6 children of your own, like they did. My husband speaks lovingly of the relationship that he had with his own grandparents. He went to their home for lunch each day (open lunch at school has its advantages); he knew that they loved him and that he could do no wrong (in their eyes and hearts).
There is wonder in watching your child become a parent, knowing that you own children are capable, confident, and caring; they will learn from their mistakes, just like you did, and their kids will flourish, shine, and be loved.
In the interim, keep the feedback positive, experience their joy, and celebrate their successes.
I still recall the day that I became a grandmother, and my first grandchild knows that he is the one who gave me that special title. Happy Birthday, Alex.