So you’ve arrived on campus to begin or continue your undergraduate studies! Perhaps you are a returning graduate student focused on completing your education and moving on with life! There is so much to do, and no time in which to get it done. The first few days can be hectic until you are settled into a routine. And, then what? Suddenly what appeared to be an easy transition has become a life challenge, and you wonder how you will ever manage the process and get through each day you’re your mind intact.
Sound familiar? That is because college can be a challenging and stressful time for students, both grad and undergrad, and learning how to adapt while creating work/life balance is critical to one’s success and survival. And, it does not stop with work/life; what about academics and social activities? What about sports, family, and more?
I’ve heard students say that college life is like a tightrope; there are so many entities tugging at you for time and attention, and you may be overwhelmed. You have your academic workload, your growing social circle and all their activities, your friends and family back home, career and/or grad school decisions to make, your physical fitness to attain or maintain, work hours, and your spiritual well-being to nurture. Add roommate problems and boyfriend/girlfriend relationship issues, and now you know why you are over your head with concern.
How can you cope? Use these 5 simple tips for finding life balance in college, and begin to deal with the distractions that you would otherwise face:
- Have realistic goals
- Develop good study habits
- Manage your time wisely
- Try healthy eating
- Exercise and learn when to say no, and when to let go!
Back on campus and back to stress…make an effort to remain stress-free and on-track this semester!
We all have one life to live! We all have the same 24 hours in each day, and we need to make the most of those hours and our lives. Can we separate our personal and professional lives? Can we have balance?
In B is for Balance, 12 steps toward a more balanced life at home and at work, 2nd edition, we answered that question. We did it so well that the book was awarded 1st Place in Consumer Health by the American Journal of Nursing in 2015. Now, we offer a workbook to guide the reader to an awareness of what is needed to create, and sustain balance! This is The Road to Stress Management.
This is it…the ultimate workbook to accompany the award-winning book – with a Stress Management Thought at the end of each chapter. Available next week at http:/smwgroupllc.com and http:/sharonmweinstein.com
Tired – overworked – emotionally and physically drained? Are your aging parents challenged, or is your young child ill? Is your partner out of work, or overworked? If any of these scenarios describe you, you may be in need of balance. If you know your skills, abilities, and performance record are strong and valued, you have a solid footing for negotiating flexible work arrangements.
What is negotiation? Practically, it’s making the other person an offer or proposal that he or she may find more attractive than the next best alternative. Some consider negotiation to be the art of making deals. It is certainly that, but it also involves educating the other party about merits of your offer or proposal or talents, skills, and actual and potential contributions. Negotiation is a key component of creating workplace balance and thus avoiding burnout. To negotiate successfully, you must do some advance planning. The process is simple, but each step is critical to the outcome.
- Be prepared. Follow the tips and understand the rationale; know what you want and understand what the other party wants.
- Open with your case; this demonstrates confidence. Then, listen actively.
- Support your case with facts.
- Explore areas of agreement and disagreement, and seek understanding and possibilities.
- Indicate your readiness to work together.
- Know your options.
- Advance to closure by confirming the details.
- Make it happen!
|Know what you are willing to accept and be honest about your requirements
||You will be empowered in support of your interests.
Your listener will recognize your confidence level.
|Do not disclose what you are willing to accept in terms of salary or conditions. Have a deal-breaker in mind, i.e., lack of flexibility in hours.
||This will compromise your negotiating power.
|Determine what the other party is willing to accept.
||It is better to know the alternatives up-front than to second-guess.
|Be an active listener, like a student.
||Assume there are things about the situation that you don’t understand.
Let the other party know that you have heard and understood what has been said.
Make the art of negotiation your key to balance!
The author has consulted with global organizations to create respite centers within healthcare settings. Today’s work environment mandates providing respite centers in all industries.
A Hospital-Based Respite Center
Stress is overwhelming, and workplace stress has become a ‘given.’ We can overcome that stress by creating an internal respite center whose goal is to provide a safe, calm place in which nurses can regain momentum, renew spirit, and refresh themselves. I’ve had the privilege of creating such centers in global locations; these are possible amenities:
- Eye masks for dimming light
- Healthy snacks
- Healthy choices
- Workout area including adjacent paths and exercise room on-site
- Adjustable heating and ventilation
- Noise levels controlled
- Room size approximately 30 x 30
- 4 comfortable chairs with ottomans or recliners
- Massage tables
- Filtered water system
- Control of lighting
- Dark room as needed
- Safe setting
- Showers nearby
- Consistent recognition and rewards for success
- Attention, praise, and rewards are given for wellness achievements
- Values placed on wellness
- Values on lifestyle improvements/enhancements
- PTO for achieving success
- Wellness mentors/mentees
- Peer modeling
- Managers model healthy behaviors
- Walk the walk and talk the talk
- Weight management
- Weight watchers on-site
- Ongoing health promotion
- Orientation for new students/staff
- Participation 100%
- Health calendar emphasis (national health holidays, i.e., diabetes, vision, heart, cancer)
- Benefits of good health
- Ease of access
- Lifestyle changes
For additional information, contact firstname.lastname@example.org
Life Balance…it is what we do and who we are!
I wish that I had been there when my 7-year old grandson asked his mom, “Did you call your grandma on her cellphone when you were a little kid?” She shares the story with a smile in her voice, and says, “Grandmas did not have cellphones when I was a little kid! My mom and dad did not have cell phones either.” I can imagine the surprise on my grandson’s face; yes, he is familiar with history, is a fan of the Titanic, and knows everything about Ben Franklin! But the blunt truth of realizing that your mom, dad, and your grandparents are a part of history is more than a 7-year old can bear.
Our daughter explained that her grandmother wrote her a long letter in cursive, sparking another question, “What is cursive?” She told him that the letter sometimes took a week to arrive; he probably thought that it came by Pony Express rather than the USPS, which is only a tad faster than Pony Express these days.
My how things change! How quickly we become history! How about you? Did you call your grandma on her cell phone when you were a little kid? And in what year was that?
I had the privilege of presenting The Wages of Stress to attendees at the SpinCon2016 meeting in Fort Lauderdale on Monday! What an incredible learning audience; these were seasoned professional meeting planners whose jobs exude stress. They were especially interested in the price we pay for stress…the price of relationships, family, job, productivity, sleep, and overall health.
What is the dollar value of your stress, and is it worth it? Are you sacrificing quality time with family and friends due to work? Are you sacrificing relationships and your own health due to your commitments? Is your ‘to-do’ list overwhelming, and can it be converted into a ‘must-do’ list?
Don’t fall victim to stress; don’t let it become a fact of life for you! Don’t lose sleep and become fatigued due to stress. You will recognize fatigue; the most common effects associated with fatigue are-
- Lack of concentration
- Impaired recall
- Poor judgment
- Reduced ability to communicate with others
- Reduced fine motor skills and hand-eye coordination
- Reduced visual perception
- Slower response times
Have I just described you, and how you are feeling? If yes, seek support…slow down…enjoy life to the fullest, and stress less! Thanks, SpinCon attendees, for the opportunity to share with you; I know that you know the triggers, and how to control them!
What a pleasure it was to connect with Maia Aziz this morning on BlogTalk Radio. We discussed Life Balance, why it is within your reach, what you can do to make it a reality, and more! Thanks, Maia for the opportunity to share with your listening audience.
What are you doing about balance, or lack thereof, in your own life? Let me show you the way!